41 - Breaking Free: “Cancel Culture” & How To Stop Caring What Other People Think Of You
Scared of getting CANCELED? Listen in as I share how to break free from the throes of perception and stop caring what other people think in today’s episode of Payday With Rayray.
“When you have a deep level of integrity to your own soul, you become incredibly powerful.”
– Rachel Bell
In this episode, I share my thoughts on CANCEL CULTURE and how it’s affecting our ability to self-express. You’ll listen in as I give the cold, hard facts about the things you’ll never be able to control, like another person’s perception of you. Hear me break down the three qualified sources of feedback and who definitely isn’t qualified – and get one step closer to confidently walking your own path by your own rules.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from me in this episode:
Why CANCEL CULTURE is a threat to self-expression.
How to CHOOSE what you care about.
Why you’ll NEVER be safe from perception (EVER).
My 3 (yes, only 3) qualified sources of feedback.
Why you can’t expect understanding from those not on your path.
How to play by YOUR own rules and trust yourself.
Show Notes
01:30 – Today’s topic: How to stop caring about what other people think of you.
03:00 – Most people feel anxiety and trapped by the terror of people thinking they’re something they are not.
04:05 – Cancel Culture: What it is and how it has become pervasive in our world.
06:30 – The problem: People don’t have their own internal compass to discern what fits into their own narrative.
07:00 – The fear of cancellation is a threat to self-expression.
08:35 – Cancel Culture has always been around in some form; we’re wired to care what other people think.
10:05 – You’ll never get to a point where you don’t care at all, but you can choose what you’ll care about.
10:55 – Perception cannot be managed; accept that you are not safe from perception.
14:35 – Think of your meta-program and someone you have cancelled because of it.
16:50 – People have a lot of projection and passion around what they believe to be true.
17:40 – You care about what people think, but what is it costing you?
18:00 – There are qualified and unqualified sources of feedback.
19:20 – You lose the protection of the crowd when you choose to walk a new path.
20:00 – My journey: I was seeking understanding from people who were not interested in understanding or simply couldn’t understand.
22:30 – A zig-zag path isn’t usually met with understanding from straight-line path people.
26:00 – Have so much authentic integrity for yourself that you don’t feel the need to play by anyone else’s rules.
27:00 – The three sources of qualified feedback for me: My soul, mentors, and ideal client avatars.
31:30 – If I took feedback from people outside of those three, I’d be a mess mentally.
32:05 – Not caring what other people think is an ongoing journey, process, and cycle.
33:00 – A piece of homework: Watch “Disco Theory” on my IG highlights.
34:00 – Walk through this world connected to your own power.
Exercise
Watch “Disco Theory” on my IG highlights.
“Perception is not yours to manage.”
– Rachel Bell
